Tuesday, March 22, 2011

It's Official


I have become my mother. Now that is a great thing as I had a great mom. But I just never have my picture taken. She never wanted hers taken either and now that she is gone, I am sorry I indulged her. It is still a painful thing for me, to know I don't have a lot of photos of her. I am always avoiding getting in front of the camera. I tend to be the photographer. 
The other day in an attempt to take a new picture for my blog as I hated the old one, I had my daughter snap some pics so I could choose one. It was so awkward. I think we women are so hard on ourselves. We critique all our photos and are quick to delete ones we don't like. The rest of the family doesn't do that. What message am I sending my daughters? That once you hit a certain age or weight, you are no longer lovely enough for a photo. This is something I must change. I want them to know women are beautiful at all ages. I thought my mom was beautiful until the day she died. So there you go. I placed the above picture of me with my mom's double chin thing going on, and I love it. Me and my flowers in a place I love. I won't fight it any 
longer. Say cheese!

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25 comments:

rachelsjunkinthetrunk said...

I so can relate! Thank you for posting!You are beautiful! Snap on Sunny Simple Life Sister! ;)

My Farmhouse Kitchen said...

~~~ great post...everyone is beautiful...i have always felt that way about people...

i love your blog....

kary
xxx

Sandra said...

I don't like having my picture taken either but you've made me realize I need to change that. Yes, everyone is beautiful (your photo is lovely) and we should be thankful for our lives and experiences.

Ceekay- Thinkin of Home said...

I definately understand...but we need to have pictures. I also make my husband have pictures done with me.
Now in looking at your picture....I only see beauty...love your hair...we are too hard on ourselves!

Holly said...

I needed to hear this today. Thank you so much for posting.

Mica said...

I too and very self concious of my photo taken as I am the heaviest I have ever been and I feel so old and plump...I hat my profile too...I am usually the one who is taking the pictures also...My Mom on the other hand loves herself and her pic. taken...Not me. I just want you to know though...i think the pics. you took are beautiful even a little extra chin which doesn't look like it...Anyhoo...You look great! Have a happy week...Mica

Vintage Gal said...

Well, I have to be quite frank ~ you are a beautiful woman and if you look like your mother she was beautiful too ~ ;-)

Janine Nieman said...

Such a great picture. It's funny my mom was the same way about getting her picture taken too. I have noticed I am the same way but I decided to hop in front of the camera a little more instead of hopping behind the camera.

Ricki Jill Treleaven said...

You GO, girl *snap*
You are beautiful, Elaine! If I had your hair I'd be in front of the camera all the darn time!!!

Cozy Little House said...

I am the very same way. But you are beautiful! You have an open and welcoming face that says: "Come on in. My place is your place." I've only met my mother a couple of times in my 54 years. I don't know if she's dead or alive. Be your mother and cherish your memories.
Brenda

Gina said...

I'm the same way. I hate having my picture taken, I only see what's wrong with myself.

Olive Cooper said...

You are so right. What message do we give our girls? We must not join this culture of youth and embrace our age with gusto and wisdom! ♥O

Dina said...

Thanks for the reminder that those that love us don't care, they love us as is.

Barb@curlywillowdiy said...

Um, what double chin???? ;0)

Maryjane-The Beehive Cottage said...

Ahhh, you are beautiful! Sweet picture. I became my Mother a few years ago and it is okay!

Hugs,
Maryjane

Susan in the Boonies said...

You should never have pointed that out!!! I never noticed it till you pointed it out! Take a lesson from me: denial is not just a river in Egypt. Repeat this many, many times (because it's true!):
Dang! I look GOOD!!!

Mimi Sue said...

It's all about self esteem and I can so relate with not wanting my picture taken. Wish I'd had a few more taken when I was younger, thinner, less wrinkled but can't ever go back. So I guess when we're 80 we'll look back at these pics and say weren't we gorgeous! Who knows. It would sure be nice if we could all just not be so judgemental of ourselves. I love Susan Branch too. Do you know she has a home in Arroyo Grande? She occasionally has a little flea market there. I've been a big fan ever since her first book came out. Mimi

Meowlissa said...

I can so relate and I'm glad you decided to have some photos snapped :) All gorgeous over there :)

Val said...

You are so cute!! I love this post!

Kris said...

You go girl! You are lovely!!

Joanne said...

Beautiful self-portrait/photo!
Lovely blog!
Thank you for your visit and comment
over at Seasonal Hearth!
Blessings!
Joanne

Melanie said...

You are gorgeous - I don't know why you don't like having your picture taken! But I do know what you're saying - I overly-critique every picture of myself and tend to find every flaw. Us women need to be kinder to ourselves and realize how beautiful we truly are!

blessedmom's simple home said...

So well said. I always tend to be the photographer too, and have realized there are fewer photos of me around. With "delete" on the camera, it's so easy to get rid of the ones we don't like.
You're beautiful, btw!!
Thank you so much for sharing about Praying for Jordan on your sidebar. He was conscious yesterday, and spoke to his wife a little bit over the phone! He may be transported to Maryland today. We are so thankful for all of the prayers.
Blessings,
Marcia

Christy said...

What a great post - one many of us need to read. I too hate to have my picture taken - but you are right, that is a bad message to send to my girls.

Hibiscus House said...

That is a beautiful picture! In fact I went to this link because of your picture....hope you have a wonderful Christmas.

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