Tuesday, May 31, 2011

The Reluctant Potty Trainer

The title says it all. Or really it should stay the stubborn potty trainee as I guess I am the trainer. Just wanted to give you an idea of what this post is about so you can move on if you aren't at all interested in the potty training of a three year old but here goes. Now as a disclaimer this is my fourth daughter. I had one potty train late just like this one and one that was completely trained by her second birthday, she is my favorite child of course, so I should know what I am doing here but nothing reduces a mother, college educated, life savvy (somewhat) woman to the level of desperation than a child that refuses to get potty trained. It is like I don't have a clue.
She turned three in May so I know I am not in foreign territory yet but come on all ready. I am READY!
Why isn't she?
What is the benefit of crappin' your pants? I'm just saying. I've tried the candy, treats, watching DVD's while sitting there whole gamut but no luck. She will sit forever when she agrees to actually get on there but no action and the funny thing is she will start to go and just stop it. Willful, maybe, frustrating for sure. So I am throwing it out there. If you know a trick for the most stubborn of children, I am all ears. I may resort to staying home for a few days and just let her pee all over I guess till she gets it. Not a thought I am relishing. Gross. We just never have two days in a row at home so I may have to wait until school is out for the older kids. Okay friends I am waiting for the magic trick. Let me know your secret.


laurie said...

well I wish i had an answer for you,, to be honest I'm hoping my 20 month old grandaughter will potty train easily but I'm thinking,,, mmmm, not likely,, she just now says poopy pants.. and could care less, yup ,, i think she will be a challenge.The potty she has plays music when they pee in it but as of yet all she puts in are her feet,, like I said, I'm of no help to you.My grandson was trained by his second birthday,, easy peasy, Gracie may surprise me,, theres always hope!

Betty (picture circa 1951) said...

I had to laugh...you've brought back memories for me. My youngest was that way too. Then someone said to me, "Don't worry about it. If worse comes to worse his wife can teach him someday." She also pointed out that you usually don't see kids in school wearing diapers, so sooner or later peer pressure will do the trick. When my son started pre-school he still wasn't trained 75% of the time, but I sent him off prepared to act shocked when they called to tell me he had gone in his pants. I was going to say something like, "Did something upset him at school?" Well, he never did and they never called. And we lived happily ever after.

Besides...once they're trained they want to see every public bathroom in the world. You'll be out shopping and they claim they have to go right away. You're pretty sure it's not true, but you can't take a chance and say no. And some public bathrooms are disgusting. I used to call them back alley bathrooms. So, once they're trained you enter the world of back alley bathrooms.

Ceekay- Thinkin of Home said...

I am cracking up at the comments here. Our son was STUBBORN....but when he finally got it he had to go potty everywhere. We used to call him potty boy! He knew every public bathroom in town.

Betty really cracked me up. The wife training...now there is a thought by golly!

My same son, he wouldn't take food from a spoon. I used (don't report me now!!) an infa feeder. You can't buy them anymore. But he could suck about as much as he dad ate in the bottle, but not off a spoon. A friend of mine when I was crying about it said," Don't worry, when he is 21, no one will remember he wouldn't eat off a spoon!" Best advice I ever got!

Good luck my friend. I think you are going to need it!

Karley said...

My Ben was so stubborn, too. My older son took to potty training with ease and was 100% trained by 2. Not my Ben! He was almost 3.5. Bribery was the only thing that worked!

Kris said...

Wait til you can stay home for 2 weeks!! ONLY in panties, no diapers! Go to Target and Walmart and fill a big bowl with inexpensive treats, even letting her help pick them. But making sure she knows she may NOT have any until she makes her wee wee in the toilet. Deposit in, withdraw a treat for her!! Good luck!!! She will do it!!

Maryjane-The Beehive Cottage said...

Cute post! I actually forgot! Now my kids are training there own!!! I do remember my son was the easier to train then my 3 daughters but they were all trained by 2! I know it's a lot different these days...Good luck!


slugmama said...

My oldest son was the impossible. We tried every method, tip, trick, bribe....still nothing.
I got fed up finally when he was 4.
bought him some training pants...this was way back. Training pants where heavy fabric underwear. More absorbent than a reg. underwear but not by much.
I told him he was a big boy and he was going to wear underwear only now. Put the 'underwear' on him and told him if he had to go potty, he had to do so.
He sat down at the table, coloring for about an hour. Suddenly, got a look on his face and stood up in his booster chair. A waterfall of pee ensued. It took pee running down his legs(not being absorbed by a diaper or pull-up anymore)for him to "get it".
After that one accident, he never wet or pooped himself again and never wore another diaper.
Good luck getting your daughter over this.
My daughter was a piece of cake compared to my 1st son!lol

PrimHearted said...

I think most kids give signals when they are ready for potty training. Mine were about 2 1/2 (youngest is 18 now ugh!) but what worked for me as I remember is just tell them...Mommy has no money to buy diapers anymore and stick to it. No pull ups, no trainers, no diapers just in bed etc. Make the clean break and don't go back for anything. You may have to clean up some messes for a day,or maybe not. If it is at all possible, let them go without their pants in the house all day..and when they give that look like I gotta go...rush them to the chair. Reward them with praise or a treat but don't go overboard with it. I trained all my kids in one day with this method. Good luck hun.

Shirley said...

Well, applause seems to help. My 2 1/2 year old grandson is starting to get the idea. We make a really really big deal out of it any time he goes in the potty .........

Ricki Jill Treleaven said...

LOL my oldest was like that....She had just turned three, and I had enrolled her in a Montessori preschool morning program, but she had to be potty trained in order to attend :O

So.....she liked the Disney movie Pocahontas. I bought her some Pocahontas big girl panties. My daughter was so proud of those panties! I told her not to pee on Pocahontas because it would hurt her feelings.

It worked! Does your daughter like a Disney princess? If she does, try the big girl panties ;P

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