Thursday, April 12, 2012

Are We Really Having this Discussion Again?

I could not believe my ears this week when I heard the tift going on in the news about the comment made about Anne Romney staying home with her boys and not "having a real job." How could we be hear again and how could this have been started by a woman? Really after all this time we are still arguing as women over whether staying home or working makes you more of a woman?
I have been on both sides of this argument. I worked for the first 18 years of my kids lives and have been home the last almost four years. If you think working is always hardest, you are wrong. Some days at home can drive a mother out of her mind and lest you think staying home is hardest, then who would want to come home to a pile of laundry after a nine hour day and an hour's drive home?
Please for the love of God and all that is holy, can we women support, unconditionally one another where ever we are. If you are at home then be happy there and know your job is worthy and noble and very important. If you are working than know you are valued and important and showing your kids a strong work ethic. It works both ways and I have lived both lives. Let's stop judging one another and together be a combined voice for all women. This tearing down of one another serves no purpose but to continue to belittle a woman's role where ever she may be working.

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29 comments:

Rebecca @ Time to Organize said...

So well put! I have worked on and off part time since having my kids. Staying home is so tough and working all day is so tough as well. There are pros and cons on both sides. Supporting one another would bring us closer together as women and as a community in general.

Gina said...

Elaine, I posted about this very thing earlier this afternoon. Unbelievable what the current administration said.

Ginger Zuck said...

The first thing I said when I heard this crap, is WTW! You said it all girl, I do not get these crazy A$$'d people today and frankly I'm sick of IT! Have a wonderful evening girl, and you go!

Sweet Tea said...

She obviously "mis-spoke" and now it will bite her on the hiney forever. Gotta think before one speaks, especially when you're talking into a microphone...I totally agree with you.

~Sara said...

AMEN! Thanks for getting it out there. I have done both as well. In my opinion the real job of a mother is to care for her family! Period. If that means working or staying home or both or a combination at times; so be it.Keep on Keeping on. ~Sara

Beth said...

she really put her foot into her mouth. i really hope it was a moment that she miss spoke or meant to say something else or ... i always try to give people the benefit of the doubt... a blonde moment??! an oops moment. ha. ha!! women should be happy where ever they wish to be. & all men should support them in their decision. (:

Katherine said...

You're so right, Elaine. This is a conversation that we SHOULD NOT be having in 2012. One mother might work outside the home, while another works stays home, but what's absolutely undeniable is that both work their behinds off. And BTW, raising 5 boys is no walk in the park, even if you are rich.

acorn hollow said...

I say amen sister!Why is this still going on!?!?!
hey they trashed Hillary because she wanted and had a career of her own. I have been both, God bless our choice everyone.
Cathy

It's All Connected said...

Hear, hear! You are absolutely right about this. I was a stay at home mom until my youngest was 11 and made to feel less important than women in the workforce. Then, I went to work full time and was made to feel like I wasn't being a good mom. It is an individual choice and each way has a stiff price to pay! ~ Maureen

cathy@home said...

Can I say hear hear

Ceekay- Thinkin of Home said...

I also have done both and neither are easy. I just don't get why this is such a hot topic again.
You said it all good though...I hope those who need to read it, see it!!

Corn in my Coffee-Pot said...

Amen!

Either position is a worthy calling. Doesn't matter WHERE you are when you bless your home; what matters is that you bless it--with your HEART in the right place!

Well said, my friend.

Pat

Our Country Bungalow said...

Starting this argument again is just a lose-lose situation. Makes both sides defensive. Nothing to be gained at all.

I agree about being supportive. Good post.

~cathy

Lemon Lane Cottage said...

Are we really there again? Well said sweet friend.

Kerin said...

Well put.

Amazing that in this day and age, we still have to rake up this discussion.

Lets show a lot of kindness to each other, and compassion.

Let's have each others back's!

Eveli Acosta said...

Great point! it is hard to home home from work and clean house, cook or what have you. Also just as hard being a stay at home mom. You can't compare but like you said, we should be supporting each other. I'm a new follower thru the blog hop till you drop hop. Hope to see you at my blog soon. http://acostaeveli.blogspot.com/p/5-day-blog-hop.html

Debbie said...

I thought the exact same thing upon first hearing this. Not THIS again.
I'm really tired of the wars that women wage among themselves. One thing I know: That particular debate is borne out of defensiveness and therefore will never end.

poppilinnstudios said...

Well said Elaine! I've also been on both sides and neither situation is easy. Jeez-we should just appreciate and support each other. Have a great weekend!
-Lynn

Lisa~A Cottage To Me said...

I totally agree with the others....Well said! Been on both sides as well. Either way the jobs are hard when you're a mother!

Ricki Jill Treleaven said...

I could not have said it better, Elaine. I know you do not want one of my rants here, but the comments of the past few days have almost made me start my own political commentary blog.

I do believe that women are under attack, and not by the Republican party. Did you know that (according to the Labor Department) since Obama took office 92.3 percent of the job losses during the Obama years has been women who've lost those jobs. Apparently the Obama Regime WANTS stay at home moms because that is what their failed economic policy has created: unemployed stay at home moms!

Hilary Rosen needs to be very worried about her children because she is so hateful, and her children are learning from her, poor things.

Sorry for the rant, but it does sadden me that women cannot be unconditionally supportive of one another like you said, Elaine. We are our own worst enemies.

*now off to consider a political blog*...

xo,
RJ

Muddy Boot Dreams said...

Elaine, so well put, and you have seen both sides. Why do women feel they have to denigrate those who choose differently?

I often wondered if we as women are our own worst enemies...there are so many other things that need fixing out in the world...let's stop bashing each other.

Everyone should just make their choice a personal one, change it if you wish, or need to..but let others make their choice also.

Jen @ Muddy Boot Dreams

Tirabaralla said...

Amen to this!

ImSoVintage said...

Amen. If women can't support each other, who will?

Echoes From the Hill said...

It's even worse, because she said that Ann Romney "never worked a day in her life"! Rearing five boys has to be more difficult than working outside the home! My aunt had five boys, and my daughter, four.
I didn't hear anyone counter with, PAYING a nanny, or PAYING for day care to care for children creates jobs for the caretakers. If that is work, then so is choosing to stay home to rear your own children. And it is the best job one can chose!
nancyr

Annette T. said...

I'm a little behind in blog reading, pardon me. Yes, wasn't this the most ridiculous of all things said by a woman in the limelight in a long time? When we adopted my daughter the court system recalled me after a month to come back. My newly retired husband stayed home w/her and became a house daddy for about a year. I remember coming home one day and he had this DAZED look on his face, and he said to me: I just need to go to Home Depot! I was outraged when that woman said: She's never worked a day in her life!

Cindy said...

Hear, hear!!!! Aren't they both hard working women?!?! The stay at home and the away from home worker? They are both working very hard, usually, and are doing their best. You are so right, none are elite, we are all women, so let's support each other.
Hugs, Cindy

Sam I Am...... said...

Amen Sister! I also did both at various times in my family's life. I couldn't have said it better!

GLENDA CHILDERS said...

I am all for women supporting each other.

I am popping over from UBP to say hi. Hope your enjoying party week.

Fondly,
Glenda

Love to Write said...

Stopping by from the Blog Party! After reading your post and all the comments - enough said. :) Hope you will stop by and see me.

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