Wednesday, November 14, 2012

A Hard Couple of Days


Our dear friend that I mentioned recently lost his wife this last week. It has been a very tough week of visits and comforting our friend and finally the wake and funeral which was yesterday. It was very sad but a lovely celebration of her life. My husband went to spend some time with his friend Saturday and when I had not heard from them in hours a text let me know that they were at the gun store. Men are funny. It is what our friend wanted to do. Go buy some ammo. I chuckled.

Times like this always make you clearly see all that is important in life. When we came in last night I had a house full of kids, friends, cousins and a sink full of dishes. I just quietly, but tiredly did the dishes and prepared my husband's lunch for the next day. Just glad all was well in our house and my kids were happy. That is all that matters. Over the last few years as we simplified our lives, not in busyness but in those things we felt were important to our family, the happier we have been. Does that make sense? The more I focused inward, on my home and family and the less I focused on what the outside world was doing, the more content I have become. That has been such a blessing. Yesterday was a reminder again of where my thoughts need to be focused. Prayers for our dear friend, he was clearly heart broken. He will really need my
husband in the months ahead as he begins a new chapter in his life.

30 comments:

marty (A Stroll Thru Life) said...

Losing a loved one definitely puts life in perspective. God Bless your friend and you for all the care and support in the coming months. Hugs, Marty

~Lavender Dreamer~ said...

It is always sobering to lose a good friend. I lost a classmate this week and it has me think more about life and the way I live mine. We have to try to figure it out all along the way and ask for God's help. Enjoy your week...I hope it gets better.

Leslie said...

Elaine, I am so deeply sorry. I can't imagine what your friend must be experiencing right now, not to mention how you guys must feel. I'll definitely pray for him and for your family. Please, do what you need to, to focus on what's important! When life changing experiences like this one happens, it usually puts things into perspective about what really matters.
Blessings,
Leslie

Karen Mary Butterfly said...

I am so sorry for his loss. I am glad he has a friend like your husband.. Simplifying sounds wonderful and cozy. It makes sense to me.

Debby said...

It has to be so hard to loose a spouse. Yesterday I was waiting in line at the post office. I didn't see who it was but someone came up and grabbed ahole of me. I said, "I'm sorry." I thought I was in their way. It was a widowed friend of ours. He gave me a big hug. My heart aches for him. HE lost his wife to a terribel battle of cancer about 4 years ago. He had to quit his job to care for her. Now he travels to see his kids and his sibs. I think he is oindg okay but I can't help but think he is still really lonely, Prayers for all those that loose their best friends.

Hillcresthome Prims said...

I am so sorry to hear the loss of your friend's wife. You are right you husband will need to be there for him. You are wonderful friends to him, he is going to feel SO lost. I can't image. I am praying for him.
I also love how you made you life more simple. I did with our family and Christ is front and center of it.
Blessings dear friend,
Tricia

Jonell said...

Re your choice to make your lives less complicated..more simple. YAAAAY..way to go.
We are [apparently] in a diff phase of life [retired years] and at this time dealing with an ongoing significant health issue . I am NOT in the middle of serious depression [fyi] but find we are very content without the complications of obligations outside our home, family. No, I am not hiding out..I am simply CONTENT and focused on what really matters..an uncluttered, uncomplicated calendar. I salute THE SIMPLE LIFE!

Jonell

20 North Ora said...

Something like that really wakes us up to what is important in life, doesn't it? I know he is so grateful for you and your husband being there for him. I find that after a death, funeral, etc. when everyone leaves is when they need someone the most. Glad you are close.

I have those same little pumpkin candles in a muffin tin. love them.

Judy

acorn hollow said...

I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I have had 2 friends who lost husbands suddenly. they each handled it very diffrently it was so hard for the family. Your husband is a good friend.
Cathy

❁Velma ~Down Our Country Road❁ said...

How very sad for your friend. I think doing something totally different, to get your mind off of the grief for a bit, is a good thing. I'm glad he has your husband for a friend, to help him through.
I believe you and your family have the right idea...focusing on family and what is important. In this world of uncertainty and busyiness, it gives one reason to want to come home.

Laurie said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your friends loss, he is so lucky to have a great friend in your hubby.You know, just from reading your blog I have to say your husband sounds like such a great guy, we all know and love you but its rarely we really see the husbands behind the blogs and you have a great one.
I tried your Brown Sugar Bars yesterday and they were great,

Lois' Laughlines said...

The loss of someone does make us revaluate our lives and make us thankful for our family and loved ones.
blessings to you

Barbara F. said...

I feel the same way, I worry about myself, do what I can, and leave the rest to God. He has always been there for me (all of us). Sorry to hear about your friend's wife. I got a little nervous that he went to a gun store. Hope he will be OK. xo

Ms. Redo said...

So sorry to hear about this but glad y'all have been there for her husband. Love your simple life, we're trying to do the same, actually sat down together for home-cooked dinner last night, and it was so wonderful!

Vintage Gal said...

The loss of a loved one is never easy. My heart goes out to your friend. Simplifying your life is the best way to go. I so totally agree that it will make you happier. Sending up prayers for your friend for strenght and peace.

Our Neck of the Woods said...

So sorry about the loss. I can't imagine how hard that is. Good for you guys for being there in his time of need. Really puts things into perspective, doesn't it?

Sandy said...

You are so right!!!!! I am starting to declutter my life of "stuff" and focus on my family....my husband and me both feel overwhelmed by the stuff.....we also felt this way after being with our 50 year old best friend through pancreatic cancer and dying, in 6 weeks....life is too short to worry about much more than your family and how you take care of them!

Cozy Little House said...

My condolences, Elaine. I agree that we need to simplify our lives. I think if we got rid of so many cell phones and became "unhooked" we could enjoy life more, for instance. Everywhere I go, no one is communicating except on their phones.
Brenda

It's All Connected said...

I so agree that focusing on the simple things in life make us feel contented. ~ Maureen

Claudia said...

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your good friend. Such heartbreak. Thinking of you.

xo
Claudia

Tammy ~ Country Girl at Home ~ said...

I'm so sorry, Elaine. I remember you mentioning this family before. I will pray for this man. Bless ya'll for being there for him.

And you're so right about focusing on the most important things and keeping it simple. I feel the same way!

Blessings,
Tammy

Linda said...

It is so hard to lose someone close to you...we lost our nephew a couple weeks ago...he was 42...just died in his sleep. It maks me hold tighter to my husband and sons...family is everything to me...and yes...I agree...simple is best! Take care!

Melanie said...

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend's wife. Thank God for your hubby - that he's there physically for your friend. It sure does put things in perspective, doesn't it? Life is much too short. Get lots of rest, hug your husband and children, and tell them that you love them. All the time.

Kim@Snug Harbor said...

I'm sorry for the loss of your friends wife also. Your friend is blessed to have your husband in his life. When my brother in law passed away 2 weeks ago, all the guys went deer hunting. Guys - Go figure.
:-) Hugs.

NanaDiana said...

Elaine- You sure have your priorities straight. Good for you.

I am sorry for your friend's loss- xo Diana

Kris said...

Elaine, I am so sorry to hear of your friend's passing. It is good that you and your husband could be there for him. It will take a long time, band good friends are important during times like these.
I share you feelings exactly, regarding simplifying your life, and being happier all around. I changed the name of my blog to reflect these feelings and changes in our lives. It has been a good thing!
My thoughts and prayers are with you as you help your friend through this time in his life.
xo kris

Michelle said...

I am sorry to hear of your friends loss. We will be praying for him. Your husband is truly a blessing to him.

lulumusing said...

Your story makes you mindful that every good day you have is a treasure.

Tilly's Nest said...

Oh Elaine, I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I will be sending along my thoughts and prayers. I wish I could shrink this country to be closer. On a sunny note, you won the giveaway over at Tilly's Nest! Please contact me asap to claim your prize. Hugs!Melissa

Chenille Cottage said...

What a gift you and your husband are right now in the life of this dear friend. I have two friends who lost their husband this past year. It's times like these that we are reminded just how much we have to be thankful for.
Blessings to you and your husband as you reach out and minister..
Blessings,
Carolynn xo

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