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Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Follow Up on My Previous Post



I want to thank all of you for all the sweet and kind comments on my previous post on the lady who passed alone while my daughter attended to her as her hospice nurse. I did not write it to brag on my girl so I hope you did not think that but more because I was so deeply moved by how it affected me that evening and the impact her job has had on me in the last couple of months.

I can see it has changed my daughter. She seems so much more mature by what she has been experiencing. I think it has softened her some too. These are things I think are positive. She loves the job and for now has no plans to leave despite long hours and high stress at times. Her father and I and her sisters support her as much as we can. Allow her to destress and emote even though it often affects me deeply but that is okay. It has given me more than ever an appreciation for life. I feel more content. I don't know if this is the reason but I know it plays a part somehow.

My daughter told me yesterday that the lady's husband and son had preceded her in death. I suppose there was no one else. I come from such a tight family and large extended family that I guess I could not get my head around on how there was no one else for her. In some ways my dear girl has seen more than I have. She says mom there just are so many scenarios. I admit I am a complete softie, cry more than most probably. Just a sensitive kind of gal. I learned a long time ago not to apologize for that. It is how I was made.

It appears I am rambling but mostly I wanted to let you all know I have read each and every comment and have been touched by your stories. When we complain of a great many things in our country one thing it has done right is Hospice care. The experience I had with my parents was nothing short of wonderful and I let them know that at the time. Thank you again. 

17 comments:

pbrenner said...

I started to post yesterday, but got sidetracked ... today I'm following through. We lost our 95 year old mother this past July. Most of her immediate family lives close by and we spent as much time as possible with her, but were not with her when her time came. We thank God for the hospice angel that was with her that night so she was not alone. Please add my voice to the others sending much love and thanks to your daughter and all hospice workers - they deserve a very special place in Heaven, and certainly have a special place in our hearts. Congratulations on raising such a fine young woman, {{hugs}}

Patty

melosa said...

You say that you did not write your previous post to 'brag on your girl.' I say 'brag away', there is no shame in being proud of the things that your children do. It takes a very special soul to care for people at the end of their lives. The compassion and care combined with the strength to handle that which they see every day is rare. So brag, be proud, you helped her become that special person that she is today.

Barbara F. said...

I forgot to mention that I went for training and was. a Hospice volunteer, I knew I would do this when I retired based on what I saw when my mother was on hospice for 11 days. xo

Our Neck of the Woods said...

At least she had a family, that's good to know. It's so sad that they preceded her in death. I can't imagine being left all alone like that :( My heart breaks for older people who are the last ones left in their family.

Tree Hugger - Suzan said...

God Bless!!

Carla from the The River said...

Thank you again for this wonderful post.

Kim@Snug Harbor said...

Your daughter "just being there" will surely be a comfort to many as they pass over. It takes a special person to be able to give of themselves like that.

Lisa said...

There was a wonderful Hallmark movie on the Hallmark channel Sunday that centered on hospice care.It showed what a beautiful calling this line of work is for the chosen few. I highly recommend it. A Conway Christmas is the title.I'm sure it will be on again, and they sell the DVD at Hallmark stores. Blessings to your daughter and all who are called by God to minister in this line of work, they are truly angels.

Terra said...

This comment is from one softie to another; brag on your girl, she is a light to the people she encounters. How good your family is close knit and support her and each other; our family is like that too.

Cozy Little House said...

I agree. Hospice care is something so important and makes such a difference in people's lives as they leave this world.
Brenda

daisy g said...

I'm glad to see you say that you were made that way. I'm a mushpot too and it took me most of my life to realize that it doesn't mean that you are weak because you show your emotions. It means you're brave enough to bare your soul. You have much to be proud of in your daughter. I pray that one of the private duty folks we have staying with my mom will be there for her. I don't think my brother could bear the loss.
Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful story.

Linda @ A La Carte said...

I am so glad you shared and it touched me, so thank you! Oh and I like the way you are made! :)

Acorn to Oak said...

I didn't think you were boasting at all. I could see how deeply you were touched and affected by your daughter, her job, the stories she shares with you, etc. Thank you for that post and this one. Through these posts, you're able to spread what you've learned and affect us in positive ways too. Oh...and I'm happy I'm not the only one who cries so easily. I even get choked up at commercials with sweet stories. :-)

Teresa said...

No bragging at all. But you certainly would have that right!! Your daughter is doing a job that a lot of people would not be able to do. Who knows how long she will bbe able to do this as it must take it's toll at times. But she is there now and doing a wonderful job at it.
I am also a sensitive person. I can get my feeling hurt so fast. I know that people think that I am too sensitive, but I learned long ago not to beat myself up over it. Sometimes I wish I could find a happy medium. But I certainly would not like to be hard like some people I know.
Thank God that there are people like your daughter. You did play a part in how she is now! Be proud of yourself!

Debra at HOMESPUN: http://www.thehomespun.com said...

In a million years I did not think of it as bragging...just sharing something that was close to your heart.
Having said that, you are also permitted to brag about your kids :) Us moms and grandmas love that stuff :)

Valerie Smith said...

I think your daughter is doing wonderful work and you are a great mother. I too have a large extended family but unfortunately they are not close as much as I have wished and prayed they were. She was lucky to have had your daughter there. If only we could teach everyone in the word to reach out.

corners of my life said...

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